Amazing Zechusim on Benny’s Behalf

Dear Ari, Faigie, and of course the precious Binyomin Chaim ben Faigie Sarah,

Someone sent us a link to your website last week and we have shed many tears with the terrible pain that you have gone through, and we hope and have been Davening that you should only be able to share to the entire world Besurot Tovot about your family, and that your precious son Binyomin Chaim ben Faigie Sarah should have a complete Refua Shelimah from Hashem AMEN. We wanted to let you know that we have taken a Kabbolah on ourselves as a Zechut for a Refua Shelimah for your son and Bli Neder we hope to daven daily for his speedy and complete recovery.

Although we never met you we are inspired at your special Emunah and Bitachon in Hashem as we read your “Devarim Hayotzim Min HaLev.” We can do nothing but marvel at the amazing Zechyot you have accrued by Hashem, and your unflinching belief in the Refuos that Hashem can provide, and may it be a Melitz Yosher for a Refuah Shelimah for Benny. We don’t know if it is helpful or comforting to you but we truly feel your pain so strongly and we will continue Davening together with you.

Eleven years ago we published a Sefer on the Mitzvah of Shiluach Hakan (Shaleach Tishalach and in English A Practical Guide to The Mitzvah of Shiluach Hakan). Being that Shiluach Hakan is a Mitzvah that the Torah ascribes “Arichut Yamim” it would be a Zechut for us to take Benny to do the Mitzvah of Shiluach Hakan. Being that we work in North Jersey we can do our best to look for a nest near Passaic where we saw you reside. The Mitzvah is somewhat easy to complete Benny can bang with a stick near the nest with your assistance and you would retrieve the eggs of the nest and give it to him. Has he done the Mitzvah yet?? If not is it something that you would be interested in doing?? If yes we will try to find a nest in North Jersey but if we aren’t successful in finding one would you consider coming to Lakewood where we reside to complete the Mitzvah??

May Hashem Bless you and Binyomin Chaim ben Faigie Sarah with all the Berachos, and we eagerly await good tidings.

The Aruch Hashulchan writes that we say in Shemonah Esreh “Rifaenu Hashem Vnerafieh”, he explains that when Hashem provides a Refuah to a person they never go into remission and suffer from that illness again. That is why we say Rifaenu Hashem  Vnerafieh, if you Hashem heal us, not through an angel or an intermediary, Vnerafieh then the person will be healed from the illness forever. It is our Berachah to you that Binyomin Chaim ben Faigie Sarah be healed from Hashem completely and thus he will never have an issue with white blood cells and his blood will iy”h be pristine AMEN!!

B’Ahavah Rabbah Rabbah,

N & N W (Lakewood)


Dear Ari,

I just read Fagie’s unbelievably stirring email.
Here’s the story of my one ACTION thing.
At work I’ve always kind of patted myself on the back for saying asher yatzar from a siddur. Reason being, of course, I wanted to say it with kavana.
When Benny got sick, I wrote his name on a small yellow Post it and stuck at the top of the page so I could have him in mind every time I said it.
So the first time I said it slowly with him in mind and with real kavana, I was in total shock because I immediately realized that almost all of my other asher yatzars with kavana weren’t really asher yatzars with kavana. I was opening the siddur and blab, blab, blabbing like everyone else. (But I thought I was better than everyone else to boot because I was saying it from a siddur.) What a painful epiphany.
Painful but spiritually meaningful and awakening. So Benny’s illness has brought me to a new level of avodah.
Now when I say asher yatzar I really try to say it slowly and with kavana and with him in mind. I can’t explain to you how hard it can be. I am under so much pressure at work… with the emails are coming in, and I’m juggling 10 different books at once–I actually don’t know how I sometimes have time to even go to the bathroom–and now I’m stopping to say asher yatzar with kavana. It can be so painful. I don’t always succeed. But I always try. The effort literally makes my face turn red and I feel my temperature rise. But I always feel better afterwards. Always.
May the merit of my one ACTION combine with the merits of all of the other one ACTIONS that are taking place on Benny’s behalf and help bring him a speedy refuah shlemah.
With all of you in my thoughts and prayers,
E.H (Clifton NJ)

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